First, quickly & without much thought list five 'major' life events that have happened to you. Don't waste time deciding what others would consider major. What counts is if it was major to you. As you think of each, jot it on a scrap of paper, fold it in half, & put it off to the side as you write down the next.
When you have all 5, mix them up a bit & draw one. Read it. Now, quickly & honestly say what you thought would happen as a result of this event.
My first drawn was 'Bought house at 46.' What I thought would happen: 'huge mortgage payments would dominate my life & define all my choices until I was 76.'
My second drawn was 'teen marriage.' What I thought would happen: 'I'd have a marriage like my parents''
Third drawn: 'Moved to St Croix.' What I thought: 'five years, tops.'
Fourth: 'Lost two close, young friends.' What I thought (each time) : 'I'll never find that again.'
Fifth: 'found the love of my life.' What I thought, 'this can't last long at this intensity.'
The difference between what I predicted & reality is enormous...& has formed a pretty remarkable life. I mean remarkable to me. Unless you are a much more even-keeled person or a psychic, I suspect the deviations from your list will surprise you too.
The point? No matter what you're currently in the middle of, what you can't see over or around, you're probably guessing wrong about eventual outcomes.
For me, that IS the point. Good night.
I wrote mine on the little cardboard boxes my new cabinet knobs were packed in.
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